Stephany Alexander
Dating Expert, Stephany Alexander, nicknamed "Little Miss
WomanSaver" by her
fans, is the CEO/Founder of WomanSavers.com, the world's
largest database rating men. This controversial website lets
women warn other women about abusive and cheating men to
make better, safer and more informed decisions. It provides
a woman-to-woman character reference on men, articles,
advice and the internet's most popular abused women's
message board.
Ms. Alexander gives street-smart advice that women call
"life saving." She has been called America's most
straight-shooting dating and relationship expert.
WomanSavers.com is ranked in the top 5 percent of the
world's most popular women's websites.
She is author of the online dating book "Sex, Lies and the
Internet," as well as the author of numerous articles on
relationships, abuse and cheating men. The book is filled
with heartbreaking tragedy and humor from real-life stories
shared by thousands of women who have found healing at her
website. She has been featured on television, radio and in
newspapers and magazine articles worldwide.
Ms. Alexander's popularity comes from her straight-forward
way of handling difficult, hard-core topics with sensitivity
and humor, helping women cope and rebuild their self esteem.
Years of experience make her both inspiring and accessible.
Together women can vent, cry, then laugh again, allowing
them the power to heal.
Her website has spawned a global network of hundreds of
women who volunteer their time and energy to support other
women. Ms. Alexander holds Bachelor degrees in
Communications and German. She enjoys scuba diving, snow
skiing, tennis, yoga and spending time with her three dogs
and cat. Visit Stephany online at
http://www.sexliesandtheinternet.com and
http://www.womansavers.com
“Need to know if he is a bad egg?
WomanSavers.com may know.”
– Wall Street Journal
“Dedicated to outing the bad apples.”
– New York Times
Books-and-Authors.net: Where did you grow up and was reading and
writing a part of your life? Who were your earliest influences and
why?
Stephany Alexander: I grew up in Germany and lived there until eight
years of age. I got my US Citizenship at age 12 and have lived in
the States ever since. The European school system is excellent and
reading and writing are stressed early on in life. My earliest
influence was actually my mother reading me bedtime stories in
German. I got lost in the fantasy world of books and by the time I
got to the United States my reading and writing skills in German
were strong. I picked up speaking English from the television and
quickly learned to read and write in English. Thereafter, I read
series of books like the Nancy Drew novels and I became obsessed
with Judy Blume books such as "Are you there God, it's me Margaret."
Books-and-Authors.net: Why do you write?
Stephany Alexander: I write to express myself and to teach and
help others. I am very right brained and creative. If I don't
utilize my creativity, I feel stifled, like a volcano that is going
to burst. Writing, creating and designing keep my volcano from
exploding.
Books-and-Authors.net: Your new book is "Sex, Lies and the
Internet" -- Briefly discuss this book and why you wrote it? How can
"Sex, Lies and the Internet" help someone avoid a bad relationship?
Stephany Alexander: I wrote "Sex, Lies and the Internet" because I
realized women were not screening their dates properly. Women need
ways to avoid being scammed, used and abused by men. I put together
the best tips available to help women dramatically increase their
chances of avoiding bad guys and finding a good one! I give them
proven techniques to screen their online dates. I also show women
why they keep going back to Mr. Wrong, how to break the cycle and
how to recognize and avoid the most dangerous types of men.
Other book highlights include top sneaky tricks on how to catch a
cheater, 8 relationship deal breakers, 11 signs you are being abused
and used, quickest ways to get over him and move one, how to leave
an abusive relationship, top 10 places to meet Mr. Right, and how to
do a free background check. My book is full of a lot of information
and great custom cartoons I designed. You can purchase it at
http://www.sexliesandtheinternet.com
Books-and-Authors.net: What are some of your date screening tips?
What are online dating Red Flags?
Stephany Alexander: I have so many date screening tips but here is a
good one that both men and women can use. If you think you may be
dealing with a committed or married person, try to get their home
telephone number. If they are very hesitant on giving it out, that
may or may not be a red flag because many people now only have cell
phones. However, if you consistently phone them between the hours of
7pm-10pm and they always have an excuse for not being able to answer
or their cell phone is always turned off, there is a good
probability you may be dealing with someone who is already involved
because those are the prime hours when people are with their
families and/or partner. Online dating red flags could be anything
from pushing sexual communications quickly to "if it sounds to good
to be true, it usually is." Go slow, proceed with caution and if
your gut instinct tells you something isn't right, investigate
further. I go more in-depth on date screening tips in my book, Sex,
Lies and the Internet."
Books-and-Authors.net: I understand you found "Mr. Right" on
the Internet? Explain.
Stephany Alexander: Yes. I did not know how to screen properly
in my early dating life and inturn, was scammed, used and abused by
men. Life experience is a great teacher so when I met my "Mr. Right"
I put him through the ringer. He was merely a stranger to me so I
did a full criminal background check on him (you can get one off the
internet now for under US$50), a sexual predator check and a
character check on my own site WomanSavers.com. This allowed me to
make a better, safer and more informed decision and to move forward
with more confidence. I still moved very slowly as some people don't
show their true colors until many months into a relationship but he
turned out to be one of the most wonderful human beings on the
planet.
Books-and-Authors.net: In your opinion what makes "Sex, Lies and the
Internet" different from others in the same genre?
Stephany Alexander: There are no books for women on how to
screen your dates. There are a million books on dating, abuse and
how to manage your relationship but date screening is a new area
that's just beginning to explode.
Books-and-Authors.net: Where did you get the nickname "Little Miss
WomanSaver"?
Stephany Alexander: The members of my website, WomanSavers.com,
which is the "World's Largest Database Rating Men" targeting abusive
and cheating men, gave me that nick name because I am only 5 feet
tall, never married and I help women. My goal is to change the way
the next generation of women deal with men by networking together to
share their stories to bring the good guys to the top and the bad to
the bottom. It may not be full-proof, but it can help you make safer
choices to protect yourself, your family and what you value.
Books-and-Authors.net: What did you learn from writing "Sex, Lies
and the Internet" ? What will readers learn from "Sex, Lies and the
Internet" ?
Stephany Alexander: I learned about writers block. I have ADD
and either I am really focused and unstoppable or not focused at
all. I had to write around my moods, or should I say, mood swings?
ha ha ha Readers will learn all the key points I mentioned in
question number three above and it will give them the necessary
tools to screen their dates properly so they can put the odds in
their favor more to meet a great guy.
Books-and-Authors.net: What's next?
Stephany Alexander: I am interested in speaking for women and
creating a women's conference for WomanSavers because I have had so
many women request it. I have also started writing my second book
which has absolutely nothing to do with my first book. I don't want
to give away the topic but here's a clue. There has never been a
book written about this topic, organized in this manner, on the
planet. It's going to be awesome.
Books-and-Authors.net: What was the last book you read?
Stephany Alexander: Rainbow Green Live Food Cuisine by Dr.
Gabriel Cousens. He's a genius.
Books-and-Authors.net:
Do you have any
hobbies? What are they? How do they enhance your writing?
Stephany Alexander: I have a lot of hobbies. I am certified
advanced, rescue and nitrox scuba diver and dive every chance I get.
I enjoy traveling and have visited over 34 countries now. I've lost
count. I love snow skiing, snowboarding, sky diving, yoga, sitting
in hot springs, the ocean, the sun, a healthy diet and playing with
my dogs and cat. Those hobbies actually take a lot of time away from
my writing so I take my lap top into bed with me to write or I write
on airplanes.
I wrote "Sex, Lies and the Internet"
because I realized women were not screening their dates properly. Women
need ways to avoid being scammed, used and abused by men. I put together
the best tips available to help women dramatically increase their
chances of avoiding bad guys and finding a good one! I give them proven
techniques to screen their online dates. I also show women why they keep
going back to Mr. Wrong, how to break the cycle and how to recognize and
avoid the most dangerous types of men.
