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First Love: Just Once in a Lifetime: A Memoir

 

 

 

 
 

 

FIRST LOVE is the embodiment of a dream which I had two years ago. It is a memoir of a first real love that I had in 1956. So vividly did the details return to me that it felt as though I were in a time machine. I had met Jorge while on a trip to Mexico, where I had gone to escape and recover from a painful, failed marriage. Jorge was my tour guide and we fell in love. A forever love.  

 

 

 

First Love: Just Once in a Lifetime: A Memoir

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

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First Love: Just Once in a Lifetime: A Memoir

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

First Love: Just Once in a Lifetime: A Memoir

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Violet Niggl

Violeta Barrett, has always written stories since she learned to write at the age offour. Short stories were her favorite genre after falling in love with O. Henry (pen name for William Sydney Porter) and his classic short Christmas tale of sacrifice and love, The Gift of the Maji. Poetry and children's stories were also at the top of her list but as a child of the Great Depression, she refused to write about conflicts, preferring fantasies with "happily ever after" endings. Ironically, conflict is what makes a story worth reading and why, First Love, her memoir of sacrifice and love, may become an all-time favorite.

 
Subsequent to a forty-two year career in both the public and private sectors, Barrett, a Brooklyn transplant of Italian ancestry, moved from Canada to Ft. Myers, Florida, after her second husband's death in 1993, where she resides today. She was encouraged to write a story on reinventing her life, which was published in an anthology of stories called Beyond Coping. A Valentine love letter she wrote on a whim won a prize and was published in her local newspaper. She began writing articles for a political newsletter soon after, eventually becoming its co-editor. 
 
Barrett attended the New York Institute of Finance and graduated from the American Institute of Banking, The Institute of Children's Literature and York University in Toronto, where she earned a B.A. in Humanities-Religious Studies and Sociology, at the age of sixty-one.

Her passions are classical music, writing, reading, travel, photography ... and love. Visit www. http://violetabarrett.com
 

" This review is from: First Love: Just Once in a Lifetime: A Memoir (Paperback)

Just because you're married doesn't mean you've known love. "First Love: Just Once in a Lifetime" is a memoir of truly finding love from Violeta Barrett, who recounts being spurned by her then husband and fleeing to Mexico, and finding what she dubbed as true love. Even though it failed to last a lifetime, it lasted for four wonderful years, and Barrett hares her story well. "First Love" is a true story romance, highly recommended."

5.0 out of 5 stars A true story romance, highly recommended, May 7, 2011

By Midwest Book Review (Oregon, WI USA) - 

 

 

 

 

 


Books-and-Authors.net: Where did you grow up and was reading and writing a part of your life? Who were your earliest influences and why?

Violet Niggl: I was born in Brooklyn, N.Y. Until my mid thirties I lived there up to the time I married a Canadian and moved to Canada where I lived for 37 years. Reading and writing were always part of my life from the time I learned to read at the age of  four. My mother, an Italian immigrant, who did not speak English, taught me to read phonetically. I was influenced by many authors because I was an avid reader but my earliest recollection of being influenced to want to become a writer was O. Henry's classic short Christmas story, The Gift of the Maji, a tale of sacrifice and love. Betty Smith's A Tree Grows in Brooklyn influenced me because I could relate to it. Elizabeth Barrett Browning's Sonnets from the Portuguese and Emily Bronte's, Wurthering Heights, were strong influences because they personified two of the finest works of love in poetry and story form.



Books-and-Authors.net: Discuss your new book FIRST LOVE - Just Once in a Lifetime: A Memoir

Violet Niggl: FIRST LOVE is the embodiment of a dream which I had two years ago. It is a memoir of a first real love that I had in 1956. So vividly did the details return to me that it felt as though I were in a time machine. I had met Jorge while on a trip to Mexico, where I had gone to escape and recover from a painful, failed marriage. Jorge was my tour guide and we fell in love. A forever love. When our tour ended and I returned to N.Y., we wrote to each other. I saved all his letters...76 of them and it was through those letters that we kept our love alive. Friends asked why I would have kept the letters They were too beautiful to destroy, and ultimately, as life has shown us many times, there was a reason for keeping them, for without them I could not have written my book.

FIRST LOVE is a compelling story, a nostalgic and emotional journey where principles, love and obligations collide and force unexpected decisions. Energized by the Mexican culture and Jorge's charm, I was soon caught up in the joy of being loved. But before long, I had to return to my obligations, leaving Jorge behind. For the next few years, we shared a forbidden passion--until the forces of morality prevailed.

Nearly fifty years ago, Jorge and I fell in love, changing our lives forever. Our heartfelt story, relived through a dream, proved to me that "true love never dies." It is not affected by time. It is ageless. It is eternal.

 



Books-and-Authors.net: FIRST LOVE - Just Once in a Lifetime: A Memoir, is your story - did you leave anything out?

Violet Niggl: No. I told the story exactly as I remembered it. Jorge's letters, which I still have of course, helped to refresh my memory. Without the letters, I could not have written this book.
 

 


Books-and-Authors.net: Tell us a little about Jorge. When you first met him until his death?

Violet Niggl: As I said earlier, I had gone to Mexico to escape from a failed marriage. I also needed a rest from a stressful position I held in a Wall Street investment firm. When I arrived in Mexico City, the first person to greet me was Jorge. He introduced himself as my tour guide.

Jorge was a handsome Mexican of average height, well-built, with dark hair and dark eyes, clean shaven except for a well-trimmed mustache. What I remember most at that first meeting was his deep, masculine voice. He was a very attentive guide, very interesting and knowledgeable. It was obvious he loved his country and took pride in showing it's beauty and telling it's history and traditions. From his letters I learned that he had fallen in love with me almost at first sight but it wasn't until we were finally alone together that I realized his gentle manner, his tenderness, his loving nature, when I too fell in love with him. His one fault, was his jealousy which he himself describes in his letters. He was a passionate man who needed love and whose beautiful love letters thrill me to this day. I do not know if he is still alive. When he came to me in the dream that inspired my story, I felt it was a passing, but my friends would not hear of it. They wanted a Hollywood ending and so I began a search for him which until now has not brought forth a single trace of him. My search still goes on.

 


Books-and-Authors.net: What motivated you to write FIRST LOVE - Just Once in a Lifetime: A Memoir? Did you at anytime feel you were publicly opening up so much with all of the letters between you and Jorge?

Violet Niggl: I was motivated by the dream I mentioned earlier. It forced me to get out of bed and search for his letters which I had saved all these years. Yet I had seldom, if ever, thought of him in all those years. I had married and pulled down a curtain to the past. When I found the letters, I read them throughout the night. By morning, my pillow was wet with tears. I could not remember that I had been loved like a princess in a fairytale. But it jogged my memory and the one thing that stood out was his last letter where he said he would love me forever. I couldn't help feeling that he had kept that promise when he returned to me that night. I also felt that he was telling me to write our story for when I got up the next morning I went to my computer and the words literally flew off the page.

At first, my only intention was to write our story and have two copies made of it, one for him, if he was still alive and I could find him, and the other for me. I wanted to send it to him, not give it to him, because I didn't want to spoil his memories of the pretty young woman with whom he had fallen in love. So when I completed the narrative, I sent it to an editor for proofing. When the editor read it and told me it was the best story he'd read all year and that I should publish it, I was astonished. This was never my intention. I had always been a very private person. Adding the love scenes was the hardest thing I ever had to write. But after considerable thought, I decided that at this stage of my life I could do it. It was too beautiful a love story, and besides I had no control over the decision. That little voice inside told me the time had come to tell it. I sent it to a publisher. He told me it needed to be enlarged to a book size which I knew I could do by adding the love letters. And the rest is history.
 




Books-and-Authors.net: What should readers learn from reading FIRST LOVE - Just Once in a Lifetime: A Memoir ?

Violet Niggl: I hope that readers will see it as the love story it is and learn that the greatest gift one can ever give or receive is to love and be loved. All else in life are "things."



Books-and-Authors.net: What are readers saying about FIRST LOVE - Just Once in a Lifetime: A Memoir ?

Violet Niggl: As a whole, most readers love it. I have received some beautiful comments on Amazon.com about my book. Those who see it as the love story it is, have told me their love stories. Others wish that they had experienced a love like mine. And still others have said it has changed them for the better by reawakening their feelings and their attitudes towards love. And many express regrets that the art of writing love letters appears to be a thing of the past.
 



Books-and-Authors.net: What do you hope to achieve with FIRST LOVE - Just Once in a Lifetime: A Memoir ?

Violet Niggl: Of course I would love for it to become an all time favorite and a best seller. My dream is that it is made into a movie. But aside from that, I would love to see a change in our world. If there is anything we need now more than ever it is to learn again the meaning of love.

I also hope to achieve a purpose to my life by making people aware of the importance of love. It doesn't matter if someone has had a love that failed. Life is full of ups and downs. Forget the past. Begin again and keep your heart open to love because it's the only real thing that matters. And when you find it, you will know and you will agree.



Books-and-Authors.net: What was the last book you read?

Violet Niggl: The Book Lover by Maryann McFadden



Books-and-Authors.net: What's next?

Violet Niggl: For the time being, I am concentrating on promoting FIRST LOVE which has recently been translated into Spanish. The title in Spanish is PRIMER AMOR Solamente Una Vez en la Vida: Una Memoria. I am also in the process of doing an audio book and am waiting for the results of a Treatment done by my publishers, which for anyone who doesn't know the jargon means, a precursor to a script. So at the moment, my cup runneth over.
 

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